August is here and it's time to ask a timeless, important question — what what (in the butt)? That's right: it's Anal Sex Month! It's the perfect time to have a sphincter celebration, a real rectal royale...or to discover the beauty of booty for the very first time. To help you prepare, we're unloading some essential anal sex tips and adult sex toy recommendations to ensure that this Anal Sex Month is your most pleasurable yet.
Anal Sex Tips & Myths
These anal sex tips will be as much about dispelling some common anal sex myths and concerns as they are about technique. We'll say, though, that if you and your partner take these tips into account, the anal sex you have will be extraordinarily better than if you just blindly go for it. Anal Sex Month is about debunking taboos and learning how to have awesome anal sex — not just doing the act itself!
Myth #1: Anal Sex Hurts Like a You-Know-What
Okay, so this one isn't entirely made up — anal sex can be really uncomfortable if you're doing it the wrong way. The anus is a tighter area than the vagina and, unlike the vagina, it doesn't produce any natural lubrication to keep things moving smoothly. The anus's many nerve endings also make it highly sensitive in a different way than the vagina, so penetration is a sensation that takes some getting used to. If you don't accommodate for these differences, you're gonna have a bad time.
That's why following these first two anal sex tips will ensure that your experience isn't a pain in the ass.
Tip #1: USE LUBE
For any form of penetrative sex, lube is your friend. For anal sex, it's your BEST friend. Like we said, the anus can't produce lubricating fluids like the vagina does. It's absolutely essential that you have plenty of body-safe lube on hand, whether a penis, sex toy or even a finger or two is being inserted.
We recommend silicone-based lubes for anal sex since they last a long time and won't cause allergic reactions the way an oil-based lube might. They also won't break down latex condoms, which are a must for any form of penetrative sex with genitalia (and even toys, to make sanitizing afterwards easier). Water-based lubes can work as well if you're using a silicone sex toy — remember that silicone-on-silicone will cause your toy to break down over time! You'll just need to replenish the lubricant periodically because water-based lubes tend to evaporate and rub in quicker, which can also lead to stickiness.
Tip #2: Take it Slow
We know that porn makes anal seem like something you can just thrust right into, but that's because you're watching the pros — they only got to that point because they have a ton of experience. If you and your partner are trying anal sex for the first time, you'll have to take things much slower.
To start, try stimulating the rim of the anus with a finger or small toy by rubbing gentle circles around it. Next, try putting a lubricated finger or two inside to acclimate your partner to the sensation. From there, you can try small (like, really small) toys like butt plugs and, eventually, work your way up to inserting a penis or dildo that's been slathered up nicely with lube.
Remember that communication is key during this process: if you're the receiver, you need to let your partner know what feels good and what doesn't; if you're the giver, you need to listen. If you work together and move slowly through the steps we suggested, the anus will relax and you'll be in for an amazing experience — or discover that anal sex just isn't for you and move on to other sexy activities that better fit the bill.
Myth #2: Anal Sex is Dirty
We're not just talking about the "taboo" sense here. Many people think that anal sex is unhygienic because, hello, the anus is where poop comes out. And, yeah, you don't have to be an anatomy whiz to understand that one. But as long as you and your partner practice proper hygiene, it won't be nearly as yucky as you've been led to believe.
Tip #3: Anal Sex Prep
If you're mortified that something stinky and totally embarrassing will happen during anal exploration, there are plenty of measures you can take to prepare yourself. First, it's important to go to the bathroom before anal to, uh...clear the way. After that's taken care of, you can shower and use an appropriate body soap to get yourself super squeaky clean if you feel it's necessary. You can also use a douche or enema to give yourself an extra-deep clean. Just don't use enemas too often — they can dry out your anus and rectum and even mess with the balance of micro bacteria in your gut, which can lead to a whole host of other problems down the line.
Even with all of these precautionary measures, there may still be a bit of brown on the tip of the penis or toy once it is removed from your anus. This is totally normal and happens more often than you might think because, after all, it's your butt. Just go through your usual post-sexy-time cleanup and don't let it ruin Anal Sex Month!
Myth #3: Anal Sex is Taboo
For a long, long time, anal sex was seen as something dirty and, dare we say it, "slutty." On the flip side, it was even thought of as something religious folks engaged in so they could have sex while still "technically" remaining virgins. The truth is, it doesn't matter what your reasons are for wanting to give anal sex a go — it only matters that you and your partner enthusiastically consent because you want to try out a new sexual experience together.
Tip #4: Don't Let Anyone Cramp Your Style
If anyone gives you and your partner a hard time about practicing anal sex, tell 'em to shove it — especially during Anal Sex Month! There's nothing wrong with any form of sex between consenting adults.
Anal Sex Toys to Make Your August Awesome
With all of those anal sex tips in mind, this is where the fun really begins! There are so many different anal sex toys to try out, and many are appropriate for couples of all experience levels. We'll run through our favorites by category to give you plenty of ideas for Anal Sex Month shenanigans.
Anal Starter Toys
Let's take it from the top (so we can get into the bottom)! PinkCherry has all sorts of anal training kits and starter toys to get you and your partner acclimated to the sensation of anal sex. This section includes everything from butt plugs to anal beads, and plenty of small dildos, too. Some of our favorites include:
- Graduated Beads In Pink: A flexible strand of small, unintimidating anal beads that gradually increase in size the closer they get to the loop retrieval handle.
- Jelly Rancher Anal Trainer Pleasure Plugs Kit : A kit of three super smooth, tapered butt plugs, the smallest of which is barely larger than a finger.
- Masster's Degree Anal Education Set : This kit comes with a douche for prep and three silky silicone butt plugs that graduate from beginner friendly to more advanced in size.
If you want to give your partner some mind-blowing orgasms, stimulating their prostate is the way to do it. Prostate massagers are designed to target this sensitive internal bundle of nerves through pressure or electrifying pulses and vibrations. Naturally, we have tons to choose from.
- JimmyJane Neptune 2 Remote P-Spot Massager : This curvy and flexible probe is designed to effortlessly align with the prostate, and its wide handle is easy to grip for an intense, rocking massage.
- Dr. Joel Premium Prostate Massager: This straightforward massager has a buzzing tip that's sure to send your partner over the edge.
Butt plugs, or anal plugs, give the receiver a consistent feeling of fullness while they're being stimulated elsewhere, or even penetrated vaginally with a penis or other sex toy. They come in all sorts of shapes, sizes and materials, so it's easy to find the perfect style for your preferences and experience level! Here are a few of our faves:
- Glams Rainbow Gem Silicone Butt Plug /span>: This super silky plug has a classic taper and sleek neck designed for anal sex anyone to enjoy!
- Vick Neo Prostate: This high-tech silicone butt plug pairs up with the Svakom app to allow your partner to remotely control an unlimited number of rhythms or twelve pre-established patterns of throbbing, pulsing pleasure.
While prostate massagers and vibrators can sometimes be used for similar means, anal vibes are focused on providing a feeling of fullness and pure, pulsing pleasure throughout the entire rectum. Whether you have a prostate or not, you're sure to have an explosively orgasmic experience when your partner whips out one of these.
- inity Vibes Silicone Beaded Prostate Vibe: This beaded anal teaser includes three bubbly swells that target sweet spots while ten speeds of vibration rumble from base to tip.
- Bang! Vibrating Anal Beads In Black : Go all out with this unique beaded anal teaser which features 3 bubbly swells that pop blissfully through sensitive places to target sweet spots with ease to send you over the edge in more ways than one.
Get All You Need for Anal Sex Month & Beyond at PinkCherry
Whether it's a prostate massager or a fresh bottle of silicone lube, you'll find everything you need to celebrate Anal Sex Month this August at PinkCherry. Check out the full glory of our anal toys collection and stock up today!