Let's face it: anal sex can be pretty intimidating if you don’t know what to expect, or if you’ve had a negative experience with it in the past. However, it's a topic that seems to come up as many couples try to find new ways to expand their sexual horizons. For those who are curious about the possibility of anal orgasm, anal sex can be a very pleasurable experience when done safely and correctly. That's why PinkCherry has compiled some of the best anal sex tips to help you understand anal sex and how you and your partner can prepare for it.
One of the most common hangups for people who want to try anal sex, particularly those who will be bottoming, is cleanliness. Luckily, it's really easy to prep for anal, even without using a douche. A baby wipe or even just warm water will do the trick. If you'd prefer a deeper clean, you can graduate to a douche, although you shouldn't douche super frequently — it can dry out your rectum and even interfere with your bowel movements. But once in a while is fine. There are even kits geared toward beginners that include anal toys and a douche, such as the Anal Explorer Kit from PinkCherry. Just remember that as long as you follow proper hygiene procedures, you're a lot cleaner down there than you think.
Lots O' Lube
We cannot stress this enough: use lube! Lots of it! Unlike the vagina, the butthole is not self-lubricating, which can lead to tearing and a lot of discomfort if you try sticking anything in there while it’s dry. We recommend using a water-based lubricant since most of the toys you may be using are likely silicone-based. It's also less likely to irritate the area. If you use enough lube, anal sex should feel...well, sort of like it does when you have a “smooth move." If you experience any discomfort other than that, use more lube, try a different toy and take things a bit slower.
Try A Toy
Speaking of toys, use them! Knowing how to use anal sex toys is a great way to familiarize yourself with the sensation of anal penetration before trying with a partner. It also helps you become more comfortable with your body and, importantly, whether you even like the feeling of anal sex or not.
To start, use a simple toy like a butt plug or vibrator. Don't insert them — instead, draw circles around your anal opening to stimulate yourself externally. Even external vibrations and pressure can lead to pleasurable sensations. This is a private and comfortable way to get to know your body and preferences better. And then you can incorporate those same toys into sexy time with your partner if that's what you choose to do — it's a win-win!
One of the most important tips for anal sex is to start slow regardless if you're experimenting on your own or with a partner. Whether it's a toy, a finger or a penis going in, have your partner start by only applying external pressure or vibrations. You could even have them give you a lovely thigh and buttcheek massage before heading deeper — it's a pleasant, relaxing sensation that can help your anal muscles loosen up for penetration later.
When having anal sex for the first time, your partner shouldn't take a deep dive right away; that's almost guaranteed to be too much for you to handle. The key to successful anal play is preparation, so along with starting slow, insertion should always begin on the shallow side. You've got to learn to swim before you can head to the deep end, after all.
If you're feeling particularly cheeky (see what we did there?!), perhaps you've heard of rimming? Rimming is basically the circling and shallow insertion techniques we've been talking about up until this point, with a twist - or a tongue, to be more precise. Rimming, or analingus, as it's sometimes called, is oral sex for your butt. Aside from feeling really good, rimming helps stimulate the nerves in your anus to relax the muscles and get the pleasurable sensations going. After you're thoroughly fired up (in a good way), you can give the okay for your partner move things forward.
A bit of anal sex advice to get things moving is to have your partner do things that you do know you like. Good foreplay is a crucial component to any successful sexual endeavor, especially when you're trying something for the first time. Like kissing? Kiss away while your partner stimulates your derriere. Have a preferred position? Get into it and try a little rimming! Combining comfortable old favorites with new sensations will help make anal sex as comfortable as possible.
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
We’re going to say it one more time: communicate. It's the most important of all of the anal sex tips out there or any sex tips, for that matter. If something doesn't feel right, let your partner know — and partners, listen to what the receivers are saying. Same goes for the opposite end of the spectrum; when something feels good, tell your partner to keep going. Together, you'll be able to create an amazing anal sex experience or, at the very least, learn more about your bedroom preferences.
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