When it comes to sensual play, experimentation can be a wonderful thing. When you get creative and try new things in the bedroom, you have the opportunity to discover unique sources of stimulation. Some of those turn-ons might even be things that you never thought you would enjoy. That’s the beauty of keeping an open mind when it comes to adult fun times. You won’t know if you’ll truly love or hate something until you give it a try, right?
This can be said about the subject at, ahem, hand — fisting! And if you're preparing for your first time fisting, we figured that you might need some help getting started. So, here are a few helpful tips.
What Is Fisting?
At first mention, fisting is either adored or abhorred. It’s a hard ‘no’ for some and an exciting and super-intimate sensual challenge for others. Fisting involves using the whole hand (in fist form) to penetrate the vagina or rectum.
How do we feel about fisting? The answer is simple. We say give it a go if you’d like. We just want you to head down that road safely, especially if this is your first time. That’s why we’re sharing a few tips to help ensure that your first time fisting is an enjoyable experience.
Tip One: Accept That You’re Not An Adult Film Star And Start Slow
We get it. The things some actors can do on film look pretty amazing and exciting. And hey, you just might be able to accomplish them one day. However, that day is not today. Fisting is not something that you can just rush into.
If you’re the receiver, it will take patience and practice to learn how to relax your mind and your body so you can truly enjoy the act. If you’re the giver, you’ll need time to develop your technique and to learn how to read your partner. Fisting truly is a team sport. So, talk things through with your play partner so you both can be on the same page before you even start.
Tip Two: Work Your Way Up To Pleasure
You might think that in order to take a fist, you’ll need to start with the biggest toy that you can find. Think again. As we mentioned before, take it slow. And taking it slow also means taking it — small. To get used to the feeling of having a sizable object inserted in your anus or vagina, start with a smaller toy, get used to the feeling of having it inside of you, and then work up to larger fisting toys.
When selecting fisting toys, invest in ones that will feel smooth and natural inside of you. If they feel too hard or rough, they’ll definitely ruin the mood and the overall experience. Once you master the sensation and feel at ease, you can move on to taking your partner’s fingers.
Tip Three: No Glove, No Love
Now, you might think that wearing gloves is kind of clinical and will take the fun out of the process but don’t. Just consider the gloves as an extra special way to show your partner you care. Gloves are good for blocking fluid contact, and they protect the recipient from any germs that might be lurking on the giver’s hands or under their nails.
Gloves are also great for preventing any tears or injuries from long or rough fingernails, especially in extremely sensitive areas like the vagina, rectum or even colon. If you want to go the extra mile to prevent any accidental pokes or scratches, you can pad the tips of your fingers with cotton balls before putting on gloves. Now, of course, you’ll want to scrub your hands and forearms like a surgeon before you engage in fisting, but it never hurts to have an extra layer of protection by wearing gloves.
If you’re thinking about using latex gloves, know that oil-based lubes can break down latex. If you want to wear gloves but water-based lube isn’t an option, try nitrile gloves instead. They’re just as strong, they can be used with oil-based lubes and they’re good for those with latex allergies.
Tip Four: Use Lots And Lots And Lots Of Lube
Lube is good for the prep stage of the process, especially if toys are being used to prepare for anal fisting. And of course, it’s very necessary for the actual act. You’ll just need to make sure that you get the right lube for the job. If you’re engaging in vaginal fisting, you can use a good-quality water-based lube. Anal fisting requires a lube that’s been specifically formulated for it, so you’ll want to research what’s out there and pick one based on the needs of you and your partner.
When trying to narrow down your choices, avoid any lubes with numbing agents in them. The receiver needs to be able to feel those great sensations annnnd those not-so-great ones, too, so they can communicate when things need to be put on hold.
Tip Five: Layer Up For a Smoother Sensation
Once you’re at the finger exploration level, encourage your partner to slowly layer their fingers inside of you one at a time instead of shoving them all in at once and vice versa if you’re the giver. When it comes to the thumb, it can be placed in the center of the palm pointing towards the middle finger. The index and pinky fingers can be pulled into the center as well. Once the hand is positioned like this, it’s easier to form a fist. When playtime is over, remember to pull out just as gently as you went it. While it’s easy to get carried away, keep in mind that you’re still exploring a very delicate area. Extend courtesy and care every time.
Tip Six: Listen to Your Body — And Each Other
When it comes to any form of partner play, this is sooooo very important, especially because it’s key to keeping you both happy, healthy and safe. If you or your partner experience extreme discomfort at any point during your first time fisting, stop. Do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Do not assume it’ll ease up. Just stop. When done slowly and correctly, fisting can be very stimulating for you and your partner. But if you don’t respect each other’s boundaries and listen to each other, this can end up being a memorable experience for all the wrong reasons.
Talk before and during your fisting session. Talk about what you like, talk about your fears, talk about some myths you’ve heard and do research together. This way, you’ll know what to expect and you can pick up some helpful techniques along the way. And when you’re all done and spent from a sensual and safe fisting session, you can fist bump your partner for a job well done.
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