The Big O...little death...climax...jet one’s juice...sex spasm...blast off...come...
All of the above are creative and/or slangy ways to refer to an orgasm. But what is an orgasm, exactly? You might think that’s a silly question, but the medical community is still trying to figure out how the magic happens. For example, many healthcare experts didn’t accept the concept of the female orgasm until the 1970s. Some actually didn’t believe that it was possible for women to experience them. Truly surprising given all of the scientific research and advances made within the last century. We’re guessing pleasure wasn’t high up on the list.
Anyway, back to the matter at hand. Orgasms can be defined as “the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure.”*Huh? That sounds pretty vague. When you think about it though, it’s understandable because orgasms can be a little different for everyone. Maybe that’s why they’re so hard to define.
Some of us have experienced orgasms that are off the charts in terms of intensity, while others are still waiting to feel the earth (or the bed) move. Regardless of where you land on the spectrum, you’re in the right place when it comes to perfecting and possibly multiplying your orgasm. With our help, you might be able to find a better groove and pick up some techniques so you can keep making that O-face all night long.
Can Anyone Have Multiple Orgasms?
There’s good (and interesting) news when it comes to this question. Let’s start with the interesting news. Guys, gather around because this first part is about you. When it comes to men and sex, a lot of people subscribe to one formula: orgasm = ejaculation. But that’s not how it works at all. The male orgasm really occurs between two and seven seconds before ejaculation. During this time, a man will experience increased sensitivity all over and a flood of sensation in the scrotum and penis. Ejaculation signals the end of stimulation and ushers in the “refractory period”, also known as the “I need time to recover” portion of the show.
While the refractory period makes it virtually impossible for ejaculatory multiple male orgasms, it is possible for them to have non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms with a little practice. We’ll cover that in a little bit, guys. So, keep your heads up in the meantime.
On the other hand, it’s usually much easier for women to have multiple orgasms because the female body doesn’t need a post-orgasm recovery period. This means a woman has the ability to stay aroused longer so she can keep going and going, and ohhhhh-ing. Now, just because multiple female orgasms are a little easier to come by, no pun intended, doesn’t mean that they’ll occur naturally. Ladies, you still have to put in the work to become an official member of the multiple orgasm club. But don’t worry. We’re going to give you some tips to help you get there.
How To Achieve Multiple Male/Penile Orgasms
Guys, even though you’re up against the refractory period, there are some things that you can do to get a few more non-ejaculatory orgasms in before you tap out. Before you get started, keep in mind that non-ejaculatory orgasms feel a little different than ejaculatory orgasms. They’re not as intense, but they can still be quite satisfying. Look at them this way: non-ejaculatory orgasms are pretty much like the sprinkles on top of a sensual sundae. So keep an open mind and give them a try. They just might be the sexual accompaniments that you’ve been missing.
In order to master non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms, you’ll have to strengthen those pelvic floor muscles. You can do so through kegel exercises. When the pelvic floor muscles are strong, you can control things down south when it gets steamy in the bedroom. The pubococcygeus, or PC muscle, stretches from the pubic bone to the tailbone. This muscle controls ejaculation, so if you can keep yourself from having an ejaculatory orgasm, you can bypass the refractory period and keep on oh-ing!
You can get your kegels on by contracting your PC muscle as you would if you were trying to control your urine flow. Simply contract the muscle for five to 10 seconds at a time and try doing 10-15 repetitions three times a day.
Another thing you can do is try another position to delay gratification. Try having sex in a chair so you can stand up and pull out well before ejaculation. Standing up will allow you to tighten your pelvic floor muscles so you can have a non-ejaculatory orgasm.
How To Have Multiple Female Orgasms
Knowing what you like can help in your pursuit of multiple orgasms. Before you embark on this adventure with a partner, experiment to find out what really gets you going when you’re alone. Being highly aroused makes it’s easier to orgasm once or over and over again. So, play around with music, sensual fabrics, lingerie, candles and sex toys to discover what it takes to make you melt.
Next, be a tease. Try stroking your body or playing with those sensitive spots. Once things start heating up, introduce genital stimulation into the equation. Just remember to avoid penetration at this point. Take things slow and try to delay your orgasm for as long as you can. The buildup will help your body prepare for an explosive first orgasm and get it ready to produce more after that.
Once you do have an orgasm, start stimulating yourself again within 30 seconds. If your clitoris is too sensitive, revisit the areas on your body that felt good when you touched them before. When you’re ready, you can introduce a clitoral stimulator or vibrator to help you orgasm again. And to intensify the feeling, you can also throw some kegels into the mix by contracting your pelvic floor muscles as you stimulate yourself. Once you discover what works, try it all out with your partner so they can get in on the fun.
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