There are dildos, there are vibrators, and then there are vibrating dildos. Even I, a seasoned sex writer, can admit it's a little confusing. What is a vibrating dildo, and what makes it different from a vibrator? Why would you want a vibrating dildo specifically? And the big, important question, the one that I suspect brought you here, is how do you use a vibrating dildo?
That's a lot of questions, but don't worry about it because we've also got answers! Today, we're talking about vibrating dildos. We'll explain what a vibrating dildo is and talk about how they work. We'll even get into some specifics to help you have the sexiest, most satisfying experience using your vibrating dildo solo and/or with a partner.
So read on to learn everything you probably didn't even know you wanted to know about vibrating dildos!
What is a Vibrating Dildo?
A vibrating dildo is, perhaps obviously, a dildo that can vibrate. Now, this is a source of some controversy as many folks believe that things that vibrate are automatically vibrators, while dildos are a separate, non-vibrating thing. As evidenced by this blog post, I'm afraid I have to disagree!
Dildos tend to be more phallic in shape and focused on insertion (though vibrators can be both of those things). Vibrating dildos might feature a cavity in their base to insert a mini vibe or bullet, though some feature an internal motor. The vibration from a vibrating dildo tends to be less powerful than that of a vibrator. Why? I tend to think of it like this: with a vibrator, vibration is the main attraction. For a vibrating dildo, like the PinkCherry Hot Pink Curved Penis, the dildo itself is the star of the show, and vibration is a fun addition that takes using it to the next level.
Okay, so we can see the benefit(s) of owning a vibrating dildo; now, let's talk about using one!
How to Use a Vibrating Dildo?
First, the boring instructions. We'll get down and dirty on how exactly you can use your vibrating dildo for maximum orgasmic benefit soon, but right now, let's get the nuts and bolts stuff out of the way.
Wash it
Yes, before you use it. Seriously. Think of it this way: you have no idea who touched your vibrating dildo before it went into its box or when that person last washed their hands. Plus, dirt, dust, lint, and other stuff can accumulate very quickly. Play it safe and wash your dildo (and any new toy) before use. Follow the instructions that come with the toy.
Read the Instructions
I warned you this section was boring! Get to know the settings and how the buttons work. Honestly, there are few things worse than being close to an orgasm and losing it because you didn't realize hitting the button would switch to a vibration pattern or something. Read the instructions.
Power Up
Okay, there is something worse than the "switching to a vibration pattern" thing, and it's a vibrating toy dying mid-sesh. Look, I know we said the vibration is not always the star of the show, but if you want to enjoy it, make sure you are all powered up. If the toy uses vibrator batteries, have fresh ones on hand. If it's rechargeable, charge it up.
Don't Forget Lube
I always recommend this, but as we are talking dildos (and thus insertion), it is vital to make sure you have a good lubricant on hand. I recommend a nice, thick, water-based formula - it'll keep things slippery and will not interact with toy materials.
Tips On Using A Vibrating Dildo (For Solo Play)
Finally, it's time to get down to it! Here are some tips for successful solo vibrating dildo use.
Get Yourself Ready
We tend to think about setting seductive scenes for partners but not really for ourselves. Take the time to make sure you're relaxed, comfortable, and, most of all, turned on. Arousal is always important, but it's vital with a toy that involves insertion. So make sure everything works for you. Relax. Maybe take a hot bath. Light some candles. Watch some porn. Whatever works for you, do it
Start Slow
When you are ready to turn your vibrating dildo on, apply some of that lubricant we discussed in the last section and turn the toy on at its lowest setting. If you are already familiar with what types of stimulation feel good for you, by all means, bring the toy right to those areas and see how it feels, increasing the power if you want.
If this is all new, play with running the vibrating dildo across sensitive areas like the nipples and the entirety of the vulva. Remember, the clitoris is large and shaped like a wishbone, and you can stimulate it from different parts of the genital region.
Try Penetration
If you feel comfortable, this might be the time to explore the dildo's true calling - penetration. I would advise adding more lubricant before you start and gently inserting the tip. From there, you can play with and in and out motion.
Bonus: If you really want to go for the orgasmic gold, try adding some external clitoral stimulation to the equation!
Exploration time!
Once you get the hang of things, you'll find so much to explore with a vibrating dildo. For penetration, you can explore depth, angles, speed and different motions. You can even target the G-spot or the A-spot. And don't forget, while all of this is going on, you still get to take your pick of vibration settings. You can mix and match penetration styles and vibration settings for the best of both worlds.
Move Around
A lot of us have our SMP (Standard Masturbation Position™) that we use every time we masturbate. I understand why this happens, but I encourage you to explore different positions for greater pleasure! From lying on your back to sitting up to lying on your side to getting on all fours with your vibrating dildo mounted to a wall (choosing one that has a suction cup base like the Neon Silicone Wall Banger makes this doable), the position possibilities are vast. Don't be afraid to try something new!
Okay, you have some ideas for using your vibrating dildo alone, but what if you want to use it with a partner? Read on because we've got some tips for that, too!
Tips On Using A Vibrating Dildo (For Partner Play)
If you enjoy your vibrating dildo on your own, it might be a lot of fun to use it with your partner! Here are some tips on how to get the most out of that experience!
Talk about it first
Don't just whip out a dong mid-make-out. Find a time when you are clothed and not all hot and bothered to fill them in on what you're thinking. Explore together!
Have a game plan
Knowing when, where, and on whom the toy will be used is key. There are better times for surprises!
Keep Talking
A dildo can't feel if it's penetrating you too deeply, so speak up. Let your partner know if you are uncomfortable or enjoying it.
All of these tips add up to one thing: communication.
After Using a Vibrating Dildo
No matter how you use your vibrating dildo, cleaning it after every use is a must. Check out the manufacturer's instructions for the best way to do it. Most toys do well with water and mild soap, but remember, if the toy is not waterproof, be careful not to let water enter it. For toys that are not waterproof, I recommend using washcloths or pre-moistened wipes intended for contact with the body (so not household bleach cleaning wipes).
There you have it, folks! If you are ready to try a vibrating dildo, remember:
- Prepare: Clean it, read the manual, charge it up, and have lube on hand.
- Explore: play with settings and positions, and see what feels good for you.
- Communicate: If you use it with a partner, lots of talking is necessary.
