If we're being totally honest, the first rule of how to use a vibrator is this: There really are no rules. That's probably why this one type of adult sex toy can pack so much pleasure for so many people. From solo sessions to partner play, there are infinite ways to use a vibrator, and that's one of our favorite things about them. But maybe you don't have time to try infinity ways right this second?
Hey, that's OK. Ya gotta start somewhere!
And with a few tried-and-true vibrator techniques, we're pretty sure you'll finish, too. Try these tips for a simple yet satisfying pleasure trip.
How To Use A Vibrator For The First Time
No matter what type of vibrator you have, we suggest trying it on yourself the first time. That way you can have control as you get used to it and try different vibrator techniques. BUT, a word of advice: Don't just jump right in. Here are a few steps you can take to build up the anticipation, ease into the experience and maximize your pleasure.
1. Figure Out What You're Working With
First things first. Even though you might be eager to experience those good vibrations, which we COMPLETELY understand, it helps to get to know your vibrator first. You can't really discover the best vibrator techniques if you don't know what your options are, right? Start by figuring out what type of vibrator you have. Was it made for clitoral stimulation? Internal stimulation? Either/both? Then get familiar with the settings. Check out the packaging or the instructions, look up your model online, or just play with the dials or buttons to see what they do.
2. Get In The Zone
Take your time. Set the mood. Before you even turn the vibrator on, make sure you're turned on. You might want to touch yourself or have your partner tease you, or just think about something sexy … whatever gets you going.
3. Enjoy The Build-Up
Next, go ahead and fire that baby up. But don't necessarily head straight for your O-zone. There are lots of different ways to use a vibrator, and taking the scenic route can help boost the anticipation and ultimately intensify your climax. Lightly touch the vibrator to your inner thighs, your breasts, your stomach or anywhere sensitive to tease yourself a little more.
4. Lube It Up
When you can hardly stand it anymore, it's time to bust out the lube. This step is especially important if you plan to slip your vibrator inside you. Lube can help ensure it slides and glides (instead of snags and grabs). It's the secret to smooooooooth sensations. Trust us. Even if you're already wet, it can't hurt.
5. Go Down Low
It's finally time for the main event. Start with your vibrator on the lowest setting, and gently, slowly touch it to your genitals. From there, you can experiment with different vibrator techniques and adapt based on what you like or don't like. Try moving your vibrator to slightly different positions. Some women like direct clitoral stimulation. Others like a vibrator on their labia or surrounding skin. Others prefer internal stimulation or some combination. You may want to just hold it in one place, or it may feel better to rub it against you in a back-and-forth or circular motion. As you become accustomed to the vibes, you might want to increase the pressure and/or switch to a more intense setting. Whatever feels good goes!
6. Trace A Less Expected Place
As the most discreet and possibly the most versatile vibrators out there, bullet vibrators can be used in just about any way you can imagine, whether on your own, during foreplay or during sex. For starters, try these go-to bullet vibrator techniques. Bullet vibrators lend themselves to teasing and pleasing more than just the "typical" hotspots. Try tracing a bullet vibrator around your nipples, along your inner thighs, or over your anus or perineum. Some people like these sensations as part of the build-up to other stimulation. For other people, this alone can be enough to orgasm. While you're experimenting, remember that you don't have to use just the tip. A bullet vibrator can be used length-wise too.
7. Focus On The Clit
The most popular of bullet vibrator techniques tend to be those that stimulate the clitoris. Sometimes direct, constant contact feels best. It can also feel good to trace circles around the clit, press the vibrator into one side, or rub it up and down over your clit. Again, the possibilities are endless
8. Venture Inside … Eventually
If your bullet vibrator has a retrieval cord, you can place it inside the vagina, too! First, try tracing it slowly along the labia with a feather-light, teasing touch. When the craving for more is just too much, slip it inside and use your fingers to press it against your G-spot. (Not sure where that is? Check out the next section!)
How To Use A G-Spot Vibrator
Some of the best-loved vibrator techniques out there target the G-spot, but finding and reaching the G-spot isn't always easy. That's why some vibrators are specifically made for the job. Still, it helps if you know where you're going. So here are some directions! To find your G-spot, explore with your fingers (and some lube). If you can, stimulate your clit to bring yourself to orgasm first. (Your G-spot will enlarge and be easier to find when you're aroused.) Slide your fingers about two inches inside you, and curl them against the front wall of your vagina using a "come-hither" motion. You should notice a sensitive spot with a ridged texture that feels different from the skin around it. That's your G-spot. So now you know what to "aim for" with your G-spot vibrator.
If you read the earlier section about how to use a vibrator for the first time, you already know that we strongly recommend you get in the mood first and use plenty of lube. Well, that applies for every other time you use a vibrator, too. So go ahead and enjoy some foreplay, slather on the slippery and take your G spot vibrator for a spin.
How To Use A Full-Sized Vibrator
A full-sized vibrator can be used for both external and internal stimulation. So a lot of the vibrator techniques we've already covered apply here, too. One of our other favorite full-sized vibrator techniques is to press the full length of the vibrator against the space between your legs, with the tip at your clit and the shaft stimulating the entire outside of your vagina. You can even squeeze your legs together to hold the vibrator in-place for hands-free stimulation. If you're going to use your full-sized vibrator internally, go slow, and use plenty of lube. Start with external stimulation, and then insert the vibrator gently when you feel ready. Press it inside only as deep as you're comfortable. Some women find that just leaving the vibrator inserted is plenty pleasurable, but many find it feels even better when pressed or rocked against the front wall of the vagina, moved in and out, or swirled in a circular motion. Experiment to see what motion or combination of motions feels best to you. If your vibrator doesn't have built-in clitoral stimulation, like rabbit vibrators do, it may also help to use your fingers or have your partner lend a hand. Sometimes the best vibrator techniques are a combination of the vibration itself and another kind of stimulation. Which leads us to our next point.
How To Use A Suction Vibrator
What is a suction vibrator, you ask? Great question! Basically, a suction vibrator is a clit stimulating toy that applies mild suction to the clitoris without directly touching it, which creates its own special kind of pleasure without the risk of overstimulation. Meanwhile, the parts of the toy that do touch the body deliver a soft vibration all around the clit. It's a unique sensation that we highly recommend trying. In fact, we wrote a whole article about suction as clitoral stimulation — because it's just that good.
There's essentially just one way to use a suction vibrator, and it's super simple. In fact, of all the countless vibrator techniques you could try, it's probably the simplest. Just hold the handle in your hand, and position the round end of the toy over the exposed part of your clit. Press it gently but firmly against yourself to create a vacuum seal. (Some lube helps here, too. That stuff is handy!) Then just turn the toy on, adjust the settings however you like, and savor the amazingness.
How To Use A Vibrator Ring
Looking to share some vibes during sex with your partner? We could go on a whole tangent about how to use a "couples vibrator," but there are a lot of options, and we're guessing you don't have all day. So we recommend starting with a classic: the vibrator ring. First, put the ring around your partner's penis (or your penis, of course, if you are the penis owner) while it's still partly flaccid. OR you could even put it around both the penis and balls. In that case, start with the balls to make it go on a little easier. Position the vibrating part of the ring based on where you want the stimulation and what sex position you'll be in. A go-to is to place it at the top of the penis for clitoral stimulation during girl-on-top sex.
How To Use A Prostate Vibrator
Vibes are not just for people with vaginas and clits. Penis and prostate owners can enjoy them, too! In fact, a vibrating prostate massager specifically can unlock a whole new kind of pleasure. Here's how to try one.
1. Get Into Position
Lie on your back with your legs raised, or bend over a sofa or bed. Make sure you're comfortable.
2. Apply Lots o' Lube
This is really the only way to make sure your prostate vibrator goes in smoothly without any pain, so don't skip this step!
3. Penetrate Slowly
Be gentle and don't rush, especially if this is your first time with anal play. Before you insert your toy, you may want to play around with some external stimulation around the rectum. Then ease into the penetration.
4. Try Some Different Prostate Vibrator Techniques
Once your toy is inside, the goal is to find your prostate gland, sometimes called the "P-spot." You'll know it because it's the spot that feels best when you find it, so go ahead and move your toy around until you hit it. Once you find it, try massaging it with any of these prostate vibrator techniques:
- Simple rubbing (many like firm pressure)
- A rapid, up-and-down stroking motion
- A hands-free approach: just clench and release your muscles and let the toy move naturally.
As always, what works for you may be different from what works for other people, so experiment away!
How To Use A Vibrator On Someone Else
By now you know that there's no one-size-fits all vibrator technique. So the most important thing to keep in mind when using a vibrator on a partner is to communicate. Ask what they like, and accommodate. That being said, here are a few ideas and tips for using a vibrator together.
How To Use A Vibrator On Women and Vulva-Owners
A lot of the female vibrator techniques we've already talked about can be used with a partner or alone. But here are a few more ideas to inspire you.
- Let her show you how she likes it first
- Use it during foreplay to tease her sensitive areas
- Insert it into her vagina while you go down on her
- Place a bullet vibrator over her clit as you penetrate her
How To Use A Vibrator On Men and Penis-Owners
There are about as many different ways to use a vibrator on a man as there are to use one on a woman. Here are some thought-starters, but feel free to get creative.
- Run it up and down his shaft
- Trace it around his nipples while you massage his other parts
- Place it under his balls as you give him a blow job or a hand job
- Hold it against your cheek during oral sex
- Press it against his taint to indirectly stimulate the prostate gland
There's just so much fun to be had. So don't feel limited, folks!
How To Clean A Vibrator Properly
Yes, we know. This part is way less fun than the rest of the advice here. But it is an important part of how to use a vibrator, so humor us? Because you really (really) need to clean your vibrator thoroughly after every single use to prevent bacteria from growing and causing an infection the next time you use it. It's tempting to use regular antibacterial hand soap or whatever fancy scented soap you happen to have handy, but please don't do that. It can leave a residue and cause irritation next time you use your toy. Instead, use a dedicated sex toy cleaner that won't hurt you or your toy. With spray versions, you just spray the cleaner all over the toy and then wipe it with a clean, dry cloth. Foam versions can be applied to a clean cloth and wiped over the toy. Then you just rinse it and let it air dry. OK enough of that. Get back to the fun stuff!
Try Your Newly Learned Vibrator Techniques With A New Vibrator
Now that you have so many vibrator techniques up your sleeve, you need some new toys to try them with. Hey, you've earned it — this was a lot of reading, after all! Pop over to the vibrator section of our website and treat yourself to a rabbit, clitoral, or thrusting vibrator. Enjoy!
