The process of choosing the right dildo for you isn’t all that different from any life or love decision, really. You’ll need to weigh out your options - the features, the pros, the cons, the price, the size...the list goes on. From a double ended dildo to a dildo that vibrates, from realistic to creatively shaped, from tiny to giant, there are tons of different dildos to choose from. On one hand, you could end up with exactly what you want and need, whether that be a big dildo or a smaller one. On the other, you could end up having an unsatisfying experience that you don’t care to repeat. And that’s no fun for anyone!
So, what is the best dildo size for your collection of adult sex toys? What is the average dildo size? How do you pick the right one for your sexual needs? These are all questions we’re here to help you answer. Before you know it, you’ll know exactly how to choose the perfect dildo for all your playtime wants and needs.
Dildos come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, lengths, widths, girths, materials, colors, and more. You can find some that resemble a natural penis, skin tone and veining and all, as well as those that look quite different, such as the ones with artificial ribs and bumps and fun colors like purple, blue, glittery pink, and more.
Which dildo you’ll prefer to own or purchase depends entirely on your preference, and there are no wrong answers! One important thing to consider, though, is size. Size matters in a dildo! Too small or too large, and you may not be able to enjoy it as deeply or intensely as you’d hoped. Bottom line: like most things in life, it’s important to pinpoint the dildo size you want, and then go after it.
Dildo Length Comparison
Here’s a fun fact: the average dildo size chosen by many women clocks in at around 21% larger than their partner’s penis. That said, some people love smaller, thicker penises, some adore long and skinny shafts, and some can’t get enough of balls. It’s true, we’re all different, and our taste in penises (if we’re even attracted to penises!)is, too. Luckily, dildos come in lengths that range from six inches long to over twelve inches, so there are plenty of options. And if you’re wondering how to make a dildo bigger, we have you covered with some tips for sizing up a dildo you may already have. Let’s break down the different sizes into three categories:
- Smaller Dildos – These dildos are closer in size to the average penis. They’re a great choice if you’re looking for a realistic feel, and are perfect for dildo beginners. Smaller dildos range from around six inches long (but can be even smaller) to around eight inches long.
- Medium Dildos – A medium dildo can range from eight to ten inches. Although these dildos are larger than the average penis, they fall into the mid-range of dildo sizes. Most are slightly shorter than the tall side of a piece of notebook paper. You may or may not need to train your body into accepting a dildo of this size, depending on experience.
- Large Dildos – Next, there are the “bigger is better” large dildos. These come in (no pun intended) sizes ranging from ten inches to thirteen inches and beyond. Large dildos are a great choice for anyone who loves a full, stretched-out sensation. A twelve inch dildo is about the same length as two soda cans stacked together or a standard ruler. You may need to work your way up to using one of these dildos in the bedroom unless you’re already a pro, in which case, have at it!
Dildo Width/Girth Comparison
It’s hard to put together a dildo size comparison using length alone. When choosing the best dildo to meet your sexual needs, you’ll need to compare the width and girth as well. Both these terms reference a dildo’s thickness, but in very different ways. Ready for some sexy geometry?
The width of a dildo is the measurement from one side to another. Imagine a dildo as a circle. This number would be the diameter or the length of a line drawn down the center of the circle. Although not all dildos are perfectly round, this measurement is still used.
On the other hand, the girth is the same as the circumference of that circle. How big around is it? This measurement matters because it needs to fit inside of you widthwise. If the dildo has a girth that is too large, then it may hurt as you insert it or feel stuck.
Here’s how the two measurements stack up against each other:
- 1.5 inches in width = 4 to 4.5 inches in girth: This dildo is the width and girth of an average penis. Whether or not it will bring you pleasure depends on the length of the dildo. It will either meet your needs right away or give you a good starting point and something to work towards.
- 2 inches in width = 5.5 to 6 inches in girth: A dildo that is this wide and this big in circumference will provide plenty of stretch during penetrative intercourse like anal sex. Also, keep in mind that 2.5-inches in width is the size of the average can of soda. That comparison should help you determine whether or not your body can handle this size.
- 3 inches in width = 8 to 8.5 inches in girth: The average penis is one and a half inches in girth, so you know right away that this dildo is double that. As impressive as this sounds, a dildo that is 3-inches in width may be too much for some people’s bodies to handle. That is, unless you have given birth, have plenty of practice with inserting wider dildos or even fists into your body, or simply want to have a goal in mind, so you can work your way up to this girth.
Dildo Features
Although the length and width are important, you also need to consider the specific features of a dildo. Some people prefer a “lifelike experience” and reach for realistic dildos, some like it super-smooth, and some dildo shoppers are looking for a base that can be used with a strap-on set or harness. If you’re a fan of vibration, there are plenty of vibrating dildos to choose from.
A dildo’s base, by the way, is something you’ll definitely need to consider if you’re planning to insert your toy anally. Any sex toy that you or your partner will be using for anal penetration must have a large, distinct base to prevent too-deep slips (ie: a lost dildo, E.R trip, etc).
What’s an Average Dildo Size?
From a small dildo to a giant dildo, there are so many sizes! Now for an interesting tidbit – have you ever wondered what the average dildo size is? Do women like big dildos or smaller ones?
We’ve compared the various lengths and widths above and even mentioned that the average dildo is around 21% larger than the penis possessed by the owner’s partner. However, there is one dildo size that is purchased more often than the others. The average dildo size, based on purchases alone, is around 7.5 inches long and 4.65 inches in girth - slightly larger than an average penis. This tells us that people are not buying up giant dildos for the most part, but they do tend to go slightly larger than the average penis.
That said, what’s considered ‘average’ for one person may be gigantic or minuscule to another, so go with what you like!
How to Find the Right Dildo Size
When it comes to finding the right dildo size, you need to weigh a number of different factors. For example, what is the size that you’re used to? You need to start there, rather than purchase an overly large dildo that you need to work your way up to. Measure your current dildo or your partner’s penis in order to determine where to start, and keep in mind that there is no wrong answer here. Many people end up with an array of dildo sizes, and that’s great! Variety is the spice of life, as they say. Some stay small and some say “go big or go home”. Just make sure you know how to use a large dildo safely if you choose the latter! After all, you have to love the one (or two, or three) that you’re with. Be realistic but adventurous, and above all, enjoy the ride!
