Think you need to have a partner to experience some of the best orgasms of your life? Think again! Lovers of the BDSM scene, or people who want to try something a little (or a lot) different in the bedroom can easily fly solo when it comes to bondage. An extra pair of hands, or lips, can be fun, but you know your body best. If you’ve ever wanted to know how to perform self-bondage, we’ve got you covered!
PinkCherry has plenty to offer when it comes to sex restraints, fetish toys and great advice on the side. We’re going to break it all down for you here with our recommendations, words of caution, and advice. By the end of our self-bondage guide, you’ll know everything you’ve ever wanted to know about how to self-bondage. From a rope harness to ankle cuffs, there is a solo bondage technique that will work for you! Just try to restrain yourself while you read.
Let’s get this party started, shall we?
5 Sexy Ways to Restrain Yourself
It doesn’t have to be a two-person job to tie yourself down and have a little fun with your body. Learning how to perform self bondage with a new technique or two, and the safety tips that go along with it, can totally spice up alone time with yourself. Check out these sexy ways to keep yourself still during some of life’s most pleasurable moments.
1. Spreader Bar
When it comes to restraints, you don’t necessarily need to engage your entire body. Sometimes, all you need is a little sexy something for the lower body. This is a great way to learn more about pleasing yourself and still leave your hands free in case of emergency. With a spreader bar attached to your shins or thighs, you’ll have plenty of access to your genitals for some tender loving care that no amount of squirming can take you away from. This is also one of many bondage sex positions you can enjoy solo or with a partner.
2. Handcuffs
Handcuffs are a classic part of BDSM. It doesn’t matter whether you like the fuzzy pink handcuffs or the hardcore metal ones used by law enforcement: handcuffs are a good way to keep your hands exactly where they should be while you’re enjoying yourself. Most handcuffs use a small key to undo the clasp, although we recommend practicing closing and opening your handcuffs of choice before you get down to business.
3. Rope
This is a classic method of restraint and there are lots of ways to learn how to tie bondage with rope. A rope is versatile and can easily be tied to just about anything. Whether you want to tie your legs to your torso or loop one end around a sturdy bedpost, a rope can ensure that you won’t be going anywhere for a while. As an alternative to rope, you can learn how to use bondage tape.
4. Anti-Chastity Belt
It may seem a little strange at first, but hear us out: plastic wrap. It’s not just for your kitchen needs anymore. Plastic wrap is surprisingly strong once you have a few layers down and is an excellent way to bind your limbs together. Just don’t get carried away since plastic doesn’t let your skin breathe. Don’t ever cover your face with it either because it’ll take your breath away in exactly the wrong way.
5. Timed Locks
Timed locks are an entertaining way to keep yourself restrained, and they come in many shapes and sizes. Some locking mechanisms have a plastic countdown timer that lets you know how much longer you have to stay tied down or held open for your toys to ravage. If you have handcuffs or something that requires a metal key, you can create your own timed lock by freezing the key in a small block of ice and keeping it nearby.
Sometimes, people decide to have the ice melt on their own body, adding a bit of temperature play into the mix. It can be tantalizing to watch the ice slowly melt and reveal the key, but you should always make sure you have a spare one nearby in case of emergencies.
Safety Precautions for Self-Bondage
Whenever you’re trying something new, remember to have a simple and effective plan that has been well-researched. If you’re learning about bondage, we STRONGLY recommend trying out your bondage method on just your legs for a little while to see how it feels and learning as much as you can about your toys and gear before binding your hands and arms. It may not feel sexy to have your hands free, but this is just to practice.
We cover ways to escape in the next section, but the following are some words of advice when restraining yourself with specific implements. Safety tips are very important when it comes to any type of strict self bondage, combination lock toy, or even nipple clamps.
Rope
The biggest safety issue with rope is the chafing factor. There are some ways to prevent this, but the most popular is to use rope over the top of your clothes. While you won’t feel the fibers of the rope on your skin, you still have the sensation of being held down without the abrasive rubbing of the rope. Alternatively, you can try scarves or silken ropes to lessen the sting.
Precarious Positions
It can be very tempting to try something other than simply tying yourself down to your bed. Many people enjoy twisting their bodies into precarious positions or trying out new ways to bend and tease themselves. However, many of these positions put a lot of stress on your joints which can result in anything from feeling sore the next day to causing serious joint damage.
Imagine trying to explain this to your doctor! Instead, keep a phone alarm or timer nearby to let you know how long you’ve been in a particular position. Even if you’re enjoying yourself, you should always mind the timer and either switch positions, rollover, or release the restraints to give your joints a break. Your arms, ankles, and legs will thank you later!
This is especially true for your shoulders. Many types of standing positions can inadvertently stress your shoulders, and they are prone to popping out of place, so be mindful of your body. Remember, you can always continue reaching your peak from another position, so don’t keep going even if you’re almost there.
Plastic Wrap
There are two main concerns with plastic wrap: dehydration and getting stuck that way. We talk more about escaping below, but dehydration is a big worry. The more of your skin that you cover with unbreathable plastic, the more you will sweat. You don’t want to drink too much before wrapping up because then you’ll need to pee, but we recommend setting your phone or a timer to help you keep track of how long you’re wrapped for.
Afterward, make sure to drink plenty of water to refresh and rehydrate your beautiful body!
How to Escape Self Bondage
Sometimes, you need to be able to make a quick getaway. When you learn how to do self-bondage, you also need to know how to get out of it, too, since there isn’t anyone else around. Depending on the reason you want to untie yourself, you might not have time to wait around while you phone a friend. Plus, not everyone wants their friend to see them when they’re...compromised.
Rope
With rope, a lot of it comes down to how you tie the knots. You may not have ever been a Boy Scout or sailor, but we advise that you learn the best knots to tie that stay secure but come undone easily. For crocheting aficionados, most types of knots used are ones that can come out by pulling one end of your yarn (or rope in this case) but can still hold you firmly in place.
Locks
Depending on the type of lock you use, you always want to have something nearby that can undo the lock if you need to get loose in a hurry. Most locks require a key, and it’s easy to keep a spare one within reach. Other locks take combinations that you should both memorize and write down on a piece of paper that you can see from your bed (or wherever you are).
Timed locks can be a little trickier. If you are using a plastic one, you can usually open it up or break the plastic to release the lock. For icy locks, keep a bowl of warm water nearby that you can put the ice in, just to help speed up the melting process.
Plastic Wrap
Scissors are your friend when it comes to plastic wrap. Make sure you buy safety scissors, so you don’t accidentally cut yourself in the hurry to get the wrap off of you. It might seem flimsy when you use it to cover your food, but with a few layers, plastic wrap can become nearly impossible to break without the aid of something sharp. Normal scissors work too, but they aren’t the best method since they could do some serious damage if you’re panicking or not paying attention when you’re cutting.
Take it Solo With PinkCherry’s Help
It can seem a little daunting at first to limit your own mobility, so you should always keep your phone nearby in case you need to call for help. It’s not a sprint, so start small and ensure that you have an emergency escape within reach, primarily if you are binding your wrists too. As long as you stay safe, there is plenty of fun to be had in sampling some sexy self-bondage on your own terms. No other partners need apply because tonight you’re flying solo, baby!
Sources:
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