You’ve heard the saying “new year, new you,” right? What if in 2022 we changed it to “new year new you… in bed”? Fun, right? What better time than the beginning of a new year to start trying out some new sex acts? When it comes to sexual kink options, the possibilities are nearly endless, so we’ve put together this list of suggestions to help you get newly kinky (or just try out some different kinks) in 2022. If that sounds intimidating, don’t worry, we’ve got a list of kinks that will appeal to everyone from brand new beginners to seasoned kinky explorers!
Remember, communication and consent are always of the utmost importance for sexual acts of any kind, and that applies to kink play in particular. No one ever has to try any sexual kink that doesn’t sound appealing. Sex play should be fun, and by doing it in a safe, comfortable context with a trusted partner (and probably a safe word that can stop the action if necessary), you’ll have a far better shot at letting go and really enjoying yourself.
1. Try Some New Sex Positions
You know how it is, you find something you like, you keep going back to that thing over and over, and before you know it, you’ve fallen into a bit of a rut. Sexual activity is no exception to this pattern. A lot of us get into the habit of doing it the same way all the time. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know that we tend to return to our favorite positions over and over again because they feel good, but experimenting with some new, exciting sensation play positions could feel just as good, if not better! You could even try some sex toy furniture or positioning straps and slings to help you boldly go where you’ve never gone before!
2. Play with Sex Toys
For some folks, sex toys are a mainstay of their routine, and they keep their nightstands stocked with vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, and more. For others, sex toys are uncharted territory. If you are part of that second group, I am so excited for you! Why? Because you get to discover the joy of toys! Add your partner and some toy-assisted sensation play to the mix, and a good time is bound to be had by all.
For folks who are already familiar with sex toys but have only ever used them alone, this is a fabulous opportunity to level up your partner play! Introduce your partner to your favorite toy or maybe even put them in control by having them use the toy on you. For even more fun, go on an adult shopping spree together and stock up on stuff that sparks your sexual interests and you can use together!
3. Get All Tied Up with Restraints
Or, you know, have them tie you up; either way, bondage can make for a very good time. Being restrained, whether with a BDSM collar and leash during puppy play, or with classic bondgage rope, can allow you to really let go, ceding all control (in a safe way, with pre-negotiated boundaries and a safe word) to a trusted partner. There are plenty of restraint and rope bondage options out there from actual rope, to cuffs, to elaborate systems that attach to your bed.
If all of that sounds like a lot, or you think you just want to give restraints a try before you commit to buying something, you can always use something you have in your house like a scarf, a tie, or even the belt from a bathrobe. Secure your partner to a chair or bed and set the submissive scene with teasing and pleasing them. Or, if you want to be the one all bound up, ask them to tie you up and ravish you. Either way, a little restraint and rope bondage can be a very, very sexy thing!
Check our Bondage and fetish toys to find more fun ways to explore!
4. Give Mutual Masturbation a Try
This is a fun one because not only does it allow you to explore the deeply erotic act of mutual masturbation (tons of fun on its own), but it’s also a safe way to play with both exhibitionism and voyeurism. It’s like 3 kinks in one! Plus, mutual masturbation or watching each other masturbate, comes with the big bonus of allowing you to show your partner exactly what works for you. If you’re interested in edging, mutual masturbation can be a great way to explore orgasm control together. Whether you use your hands or your favorite vibrator, dildo, or stroker, you will both have a good time and enjoy a super-sexy show. So let go of the idea that masturbation is strictly for when you are alone, as it can be an awesome addition to your partnered playtime repertoire!
5. Break Out a Blindfold
A blindfold is a super-easy way to take sex to the next level. When we take away one sense, in this case, vision, it has the bonus effect of heightening the others. When you can’t see what’s going on around you, everything you smell, feel, and taste will be much more intense. Plus without being able to see what your partner is doing (or when they can’t see your moves) every touch is a surprise, making an already pleasurable experience downright electric.
As if that’s not enough, there’s one more big blindfold bonus: lowered inhibitions. When you can’t see your partner, you may become less focused on how you look and more able to really let go and ride each sexy sensation to a mind-blowing orgasm.
6. Get Dressed Up
Now I’m not talking about donning a costume (but don’t worry, I will talk about that in a minute!). Right now, I’m just talking about getting a little fancy. If you tend to live in comfy clothes, getting a little dressed up can be an easy way to heighten the sexual experience. Try meeting your partner at the door, dressed to the nines for some instant sexual attraction and very sexy anticipation! Want the same effect without having to slip into an evening gown? Easy peasy! Even if you are chilling in yoga pants and a t-shirt, having some sexy underthings on underneath can make you feel sexy and confident, and there’s no bigger turn-on than that! Plus, your partner will be in for a sexy surprise when they find your hot lingerie under your everyday clothes.
7. Raid the Refrigerator
To enjoy something new in bed, maybe you should venture into the kitchen! Believe it or not, your refrigerator can help heat things up. You can try adding an ice cube to your next session. Run it along with each others’ bodies, or place it in your mouth and add a whole new level to oral sex. The ice-cold sensation will electrify your playtime.
Food can also be a fun and delicious way to sensually play with the senses. Break out that blindfold we discussed earlier and feed your partner without letting them see what you are giving them. Or you can play with whipped cream or chocolate sauce. Put them on your body and encourage your partner to lick them off for sexual arousal. If you don’t want to play with actual food, flavored lubricants are a great way to explore the same sensations, if that’s your sexual preference.
8. Get to Spanking
If you’ve never explored spanking before, I highly encourage you to give it a try. It can be a very hot, animalistic way to add some more sensation to play. Start off with a light swat to the butt with an open palm. If that works for you, you can try out more focused and intense spanking and possibly look into paddles, floggers, crops, or any of the MANY impact toy options available to you. Arousal raises the body’s pain threshold, and spanking can be a really satisfying way to explore a kink. If you are exploring intense or extended impact play, you may want to consider a safe word that signifies “stop.”
9. Grab a Massage Candle and Try Out Some Wax Play
First off, what is wax play? Wax play involves dripping hot wax onto your partner or having it dripped onto you. Sound scary? Don’t fret over this sexual fantasy! Massage candles are designed especially for this. They have a lower melting point than regular candles and are made to melt into a luxurious oil, perfect for a hot, sensual massage. Used properly, massage candles will not burn you.
Here’s how you do it: Light up your candle and spend a little time enjoying the ambient glow. When you are ready to play, blow out the flame and gently drip wax on your partner’s body. Start somewhere less sensitive, like the back or torso. Then give them a super-sexy rubdown. It’s totally hot… but not in a scary way!
10. Experiment With Role Play
Okay, I said we would talk about costumes, and now it’s the time to talk about costumes in the realm of sexual fantasy! Roleplay is a super common sex fantasy, and with good reason! You get to try on a different persona and behave differently than you typically would. It can be a chance to really let loose. Now, you can, of course, engage in role-play at any time, to really sell the illusion, it can be fun to add costumes. Transform yourself into a doctor, french maid, nurse, professor, alien, or whatever turns on you and your partner. It’s a fun, easy, safe way to live out fantasies and a surefire sexual rut-buster for sexual gratification!
11. Explore Electrostimulation
Electrostimulation (estim) involves incorporating electricity into your sex play. It is basically a controlled way to get (or give) an electric shock. This delivers a range of sensations from a light tickle to a sharp snap like a rubber band snapping. This may sound dangerous but there is a whole array of sex toys designed to deliver that sexy zap in a totally safe way. Electrostimulation can be used as part of other kinks like edge play or cock and ball torture (CBT), but it can also be a fun addition to your regular sex life. Because you are literally delivering an electric shock, estim requires practitioners to take safety precautions, use a safeword, and practice ongoing enthusiastic consent.
12. Find Out if Three is a Magic Number
If you and your partner are ready to do some extra-exciting exploration, you could consider adding another participant to your sexy times. Threesomes and group sex are a very popular fantasy. Lots of folks dream about the pleasure they could experience with another person getting in on the action. Now, I’m going, to be honest with you, this particular kink requires lots of trust and communication as well as finding the right participant. If you like the idea of adding a third but the actual practice seems daunting, try out a sex machine that will let you replicate some of the very experiences having a third person present provides without any of the potential complicated pitfalls of bringing someone new into your bed.
So there you have it, folks. 12 sexy ideas to help you expand your sexual horizons in the new year. No matter what you want to try, PinkCherry has all the toys, lingerie, costumes, and supplies you need to make 2022 your sexiest year yet. Shop our selection today and have a happy, healthy new year!