Whether you and your partner have been together for a long time and are looking to bring a little “hot and sexy” back into your bed or you and your new beau are just adventurous, strap-ons are a great way to spice up your sex life in a big way. So, where do you begin? Exactly, what is a strap-on and how do you go about choosing one?Well, we’re here to give you the low down on every type of dildo and harness, so you can mix and match to customize the perfect strap-on sex toy that is sure to provide you with a real thrill (with a side of ecstasy)!
Strap-ons might seem new and trendy, but people have been using them for centuries. Women who want to take control in the bedroom and ladies who want to give their female partners pleasure through penetrative sex have been using strap-ons for hundreds of years. So clearly, by now, technology has evolved to make strap-ons available for everyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. So, if you’re ready to get down and dirty, let’s explore the nine best strap-on dildos and harnesses that are at your full disposal for your next erotic adventure!
Best Strap-on Dildos
Don’t forget the dildo! The most fundamental part of a strap-on sex toy is the dildo. That’s the portion of the strap-on (often phallic in shape) that will be doing the actual penetrating, for people who don’t know. While it may sound simple, there are a few things to keep in mind when selecting a strap-on dildo:
- Desired size - You and your partner should discuss your expectations before purchasing any adult sex toys. Sex toys for lesbians aren’t usually super costly, but they aren’t cheap either, so there is no point in spending the money if you aren’t both on the same page when it comes to knowing what you want in bed. Size may depend on what orifice you are going to penetrate, and everyone’s level of comfort.
- Preferred lubricant - This might sound strange, but silicone lubricant will degrade a silicone dildo. So, if you and your partner are used to silicone lube lubricant and don’t want to change things up, you should stay away from silicone dildos.
- Compatibility with a harness - Compatibility is key! You might already own one a dildo (or a few!), but there is no guarantee that they will be compatible with a specific harness. When learning how to use a strap-on properly, you’ll need a dildo that doesn’t have too much girth (thickness or circumference), or it won’t fit through the O-ring that most harnesses use to secure it into place. Some harness sets come with multiple O-ring sizes, so if you want to use a dildo you already own, try looking for one with this option. As long as your dildo has a flared base and fits the dimensions of your harness’s O-ring, it should work. Plenty of strap-on systems include a dildo specially created or selected to use with the harness. In this case, you won’t need to worry about fit at all.
1. Pegging Dildos
Let the pegging begin! A pegging dildo works best for people who want to explore anal sex. Pegging toys are usually (not always) a little more tapered and thinner than your average dildo. Let’s be real, many people are much more comfortable with the idea and reality of a smaller dildo in their butt. That said, ‘pegging’ simply refers to a (usually) female-bodied person penetrating the anus of a (usually) male-bodied partner. Any dildo could technically be a pegging dildo, as long as both partners are comfortable and everything is consensual.
While we’re on the topic of anal sex, if you’re planning to switch between anal and vaginal penetration, we highly recommend having two different dildos, one for each type of sex. Sure, it might cost a little more to have a dildo set, but you won’t have to worry about the hazards of transferring harmful bacteria from back to front. Worth it!
2. Vibrating Dildos
Who doesn’t love some good sensual vibrations? Vibrating dildos are amazing for everyone involved. Whether your partner needs a little extra stimulation to reach their peak or you want a small reward for all of your hard work thrusting, vibrating dildos are rewarding in so many ways! Some harnesses that come with dildos attached have a vibrating feature controlled by a small remote. You can also purchase a vibrating dildo separately and, as long as it is compatible, turn it on and strap it in.
3. Realistic Dildos
All of the other options are fun and fancy, but some people are just looking for a realistic experience. For those of you who love the classics, a realistic dildo might be just your speed. Sometimes simple is better. If you know what you like and don’t want to deviate into funky gadgets and options, opt for a realistic dildo with a skin texture, and you are sure to have a ton of fun!
Best Strap-on Harnesses
In general, most strap-on harnesses are made to fit anyone, regardless of your body’s shape. As the name implies, strap-on harnesses usually involve straps that are inherently adjustable. For the underwear models of harnesses, the fabric is often elastic and stretchy, so there is enough room for everyone.
Some of the best strap-on harnesses have a small pocket in the front for people with clitorises to insert a small bullet vibrator for a bit of extra pleasure while you give your partner the ride of their life. Other harnesses have some padding in that area if you want to get rough and are worried about your sensitive area. All the sensual options are there to ensure you have the wild ride of passion you’re craving!
4. Built-In Strap-Ons
Short on patience when the mood strikes? You’re not alone! If you don’t want to bother with the annoyance of attaching the dildo to the adjustable harness and are eager to get this party started, built-in strap-ons will be your best friend. Some harnesses come with the phallus already attached, so all you have to do is slip it on, and you are open for business! Plus, you won’t have to worry about the dildo coming loose in the middle of your hot and heavy session of seduction!
5. Strapless Strap-Ons
Sometimes called lesbian strap-ons, although they aren’t limited to only women, strapless strap-ons may have a silly name, but they can provide some real pleasure in the case of penetrative sex. These feature dildos with a bulb on one side, which the penetrating partner holds inside of themselves while they thrust.
This is a more advanced technique because you have to focus on clenching your muscles and focusing on your partner, so we recommend saving this for when you have more experience with strap-ons.
6. Hollow Strap-Ons
Calling all penis owners! These strap-ons were made with you in mind. Hollow strap-ons can be a fantastic option for men with erectile dysfunction, but they can also just provide a much-needed break, if your partner needs more. Hollow strap-ons, as the name suggests, feature a smooth, hollow interior with plenty of room for a penis.
7. Panty / Boxer Brief Strap-Ons
Although many strap-ons are, well, strappy, some people prefer the comfort of panties or briefs for their penetrating needs. Instead of fussing around with harness straps, you can step into this type of harness like a pair of underwear. Plus, these models often feature a small pocket where you can sneakily slip a bullet vibrator if you want a little extra bang for your banging!
8. Double Penetration Male Strap-On
As the title notes, this type of harness allows a wearer to use the top hole like a standard O-ring for a dildo and the bottom hole for the wearer’s erect penis. This can work for double penetration or if you know that your partner won’t be satisfied with only one round. Why make them wait while your body recovers? No need! Just keep going with the second option right above until you are ready to get back to it. Your partner is sure to be completely blissed out by the end of the night.
9. A Harness for Your Chin/Thigh/Chest/Etc.
The options are truly endless when it comes to any strap-on adventure! If you and your lover want to step up your strap-on game, remember that there are less traditional harnesses available, too. If you don’t want to be limited to a pelvic harness with a waist strap, check out a chin harness or a thigh harness. Keep in mind, the penetration methods will be different depending on where the phallus attaches, and you may need some practice to make a variety of strap-on positions feel natural. That’s part of the fun!
Select Your Strap-On
And there you have it! Simply select the strap-on dildo and harness that work for you and your partner, and your pleasure-seeking journey can commence. With endless options and erotic capabilities, you’re sure to find the best strap on dildo and harness that takes your body to new levels of ecstasy in all your sexual adventures to come!
