Now that you and your partner have done your research and can answer the common question of “what is a strap-on?” you may have decided to take the leap and experiment. Assuming you have gone out and selected a harness that fits and is the best strap-on dildo that will suit your needs, now you’re all ready to get started. But then you realize: you don’t know what sexual positions you should try. What makes a good strap-on position? How do conventional sexual positions work when you are using a strap-on dildo? Where do you even begin?
Luckily, we have your back when it comes to all things strap-on! We are here to give you tips and tricks for our top eight strap-on sex positions and ideas. Trust us, we definitely have more than seven ideas, but these fun sex position suggestions are the best for getting you started on your erotic journey to pleasure. If you and your partner are looking for something comfortable and simple for your first time getting hot and heavy with a strap-on sex toy, look no further!
However, before we dive right in, just remember a couple of critical points:
- Always use a lubricant—no matter where you are penetrating. Even the mouth and the vagina run dry, and there is nothing worse than a painful thrust. When it comes to how to use a strap-on, be generous, and apply more lube than you think you will need. There is no exception to this!
- If you want to make the most out of being the penetrating partner and own a vagina, look into harnesses with a front pocket for a small, discreet vibrator. A lot of the sexual appeal of penetrating for women comes from the dominance and fantasy of knowing they are pleasing their partner, but there is nothing wrong with wanting a slightly more physical reward for all of your hard work.
- On the flip side, if you are worried that your partner will want it rough and you are a bit sensitive, find a harness with some padding in that area. A harness feels a bit strange at first, and you definitely do not want the straps to chafe, especially in such intimate regions when experimenting with various strap on positions.
Now, on to the good stuff we go!
1. Missionary
This oldie but goodie can easily be converted into a strap-on position. It might be the second-best one to try when you and your partner are first starting out and still getting used to the whole strap-on idea. The classic missionary position is intimate, and the ability to see your partner’s facial expressions and reactions is vital when trying out any new form of sexual antics.
Missionary style works by having the receiving partner lie on their back and spread their legs so that you can position yourself in between them. If things get “oh-so-blissful,” your partner can wrap their legs around your lower back and encourage you to change up the pace with their ankles. It is a classic sex position for that very reason, plus it is always lovely to be able to kiss everything exposed when it’s right in front of you.
2. Doggy Style
This is probably the most straightforward strap-on sex position for newbies, although it isn’t necessarily the one we would recommend for your first play session. Mechanically, your partner can easily thrust their hips up and determine the best position to be penetrated in while bracing themselves on a bed. You then hold on to their hips and slowly guide the dildo in.
This style is amazing and can also be expanded upon. Theoretically, you can bend your partner over anywhere you want. On a desk, over a table...the possibilities are as endless as they are delicious! Depending on your relative heights, you might be able to take them standing up, provided that there is a wall for both of you to lean on. If you are penetrating someone taller than you, we recommend putting on some sexy platform high heels to give you that extra boost you need to successfully perform doggy style.
For those using a dildo that is strapped into the strap-on, we recommend flipping the toy over 180 degrees so that it curves slightly downwards. In this position, regardless of your partner’s sex, you are sure to hit some pleasant erogenous zones with a somewhat downturned phallus. Due to the deeper penetration, you and your partner will be moaning in no time at all.
3. Spoon
Spooning is a common phrase used in non-sexual contexts, but it is easy to see why it might quickly lead to something a little less innocent. It involves having the receiver lie on their side with their back facing the giving partner. The giving partner lifts one leg of the little spoon to slip in from behind. This allows you to stay very close to your partner the entire time and stay completely pressed together.
If the receiving partner wants a little stimulation in the front, your hand is free for a handy reach around as well. If preferred, you can even use supplemental adult sex toys, such as a vibrator to enhance the moment. When spooning, that can lead to some pretty fast orgasms if you keep things slow and deep.
4. Facing Spoon
Similar to the spoon, this position can also be called the side missionary if you need a frame of reference. Both partners face each other and are fully pressed together. The receiver lifts the top leg to allow the giver access to whatever hole they want. Fun tip: if you want to press even closer, you can wrap your partner’s top leg around your lower back. If they wrap both legs around you, you won’t be able to go for any long slides, but it will be very deep, passionate, and pleasurable!
5. Cowgirl/Cowboy
The cowgirl or cowboy, as the case may be, is a great way to ease in a partner who is a little hesitant about the whole strap-on idea. In this strap on sex position, the penetrator is not actually in control of the action and instead plays a slightly more submissive role. The person wearing the strap-on lies down on the bed and the receiver climbs on top to straddle their hips.
Your partner will ease themselves down onto the dildo, taking things as slowly as they need to. If your partner is sensitive, or a little worried, giving them the reins may go a long way toward easing their worries. They will have control over how deeply they take the dildo, how fast the movements go, and you just have to grab their booty and hang on for the ride.
6. Reverse Cowgirl/Cowboy
Simply spin that horse around for some more fun! This works similarly to the position described above except that the receiver is not facing the giver. People prefer this position when the giver wants a really great view of their partner’s booty and might even give it a little slap while they ride. Again, the receiver has control over the pace and how deep they take the dildo. Plus, they can balance by putting their hands on your knees if you bend your legs and plant your feet on the bed.
If their thighs get tired, but they still want to ride, you can easily hold their hips down and thrust up as quickly and as hard as you want without worrying about the dildo inconveniently slipping out just before the climax. You can also feel free to pull them down while you sit up, depending on what feels more comfortable for you. If you can prop yourself into a sitting position, you are also close enough to reach around and give them some manual stimulation if they just can’t quite get there on their own. Again, so many opportunities for pleasure in this versatile position of erotic fun!
7. Cunnilingus
For people who want a little more of an adventure, and don’t mind looking a little silly while they are at it, there is a strap-on sex toy for every part of your body. That’s right! Your pelvis isn’t the only thing involved, after all. With this technique, you can use a chin strap-on which means that the dildo will protrude from your chin. Again, let your partner know what is happening first, so they won’t get the giggles when they lay eyes on you.
Many people will be so into what you can do with that weirdly positioned dildo, however, that they won’t be laughing for very long. We won’t lie to you, this position is difficult to maintain, so be careful not to strain your neck when incorporating oral sex into the mix. If it is easier, have your partner lie on a few pillows so that their pelvis is tilted and raised up. After penetrating them, the focus is on what you do with your mouth to deliver the perfect orgasm and less about the ins and outs.
Trust us, if you are penetrating a vagina and using your tongue, your partner will soon be writhing around and finding just the right spot to clench around. Don’t try and use your neck to thrust, let your partner just hold the girth inside while they squirm. You should be able to provide enough clitoral stimulation with your mouth that the lack of movement won’t be an issue at all. It’s a wild ride like no other!
Pick Your Position
Is your mind whirling with ideas to elevate your sex life using a strap-on? Fabulous! Now, you can get in there with your new strap-on and find what works best for you and your partner. Don’t feel restricted to these ideas either. There are tons of ways that you can penetrate your partner and catch a release that everyone can relish. If you want to start with one position and then move to another one, go for it! Some of these strap on positions can be tiring if your body isn’t used to them, so do what you can for as long as you can, and then switch it up! Rules are made to be broken when it comes to your strap-on sexual adventures!
